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Your friends don't like using their vacation days to celebrate your wedding

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Vacationing in America is proving to be more stressful than one would expect. KIRAYONAK YULIYA/Shutterstock
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In most cases, your close friends will opt to take a day or two off work to celebrate your bachelorette weekend — but they may not be happy about it.

In fact, Americans spend about 35% of their time off to celebrate other peoples' milestones, according to a new survey from London-based research firm Mortar for the travel company Flash Pack.

The survey found Americans average 10 vacation days a year, if provided by private companies (as the US is the only wealthy nation that does not guarantee days off). Of those 10 days, people spend 3.5 of them going to other peoples' weddings, birthdays, baby showers — pretty much any planned event that's not their own.

The survey comprised of 1,000 responses from men and women of all ages, income brackets, and US regions. 

Millennials, in particular, give up more vacation days for other people — 61% of people ages 25 to 44 said they attended up to 10 local weddings in the last three years. 

While spending time with loved ones seems like a valuable time commitment, 80% of all the people surveyed said they would rather spend their days off on themselves. Only a fifth of respondents said they were "okay with using earned vacation time for other people's events."

"In a life that's already bursting at the seams, you're frittering away all your spare time and money on other people's dream," Flash Pack co-founder Lee Thompson said in a statement.

Vacationing in America is proving to be more stressful than one would expect. Americans are notoriously bad at taking vacation when compared to other developed nations: a recent survey by pollster Gallup found three in 10 workers did not go on vacation in 2017.

Vacation can even cause stress. A survey conducted by Business Insider and LinkedIn recently found that 23% of professionals feel burned out when their coworkers are on vacation.

And since the US does not guarantee vacation, some employees have to choose between a day off and a paycheck: 25% of private companies do not give paid vacation, according to the Bureau of Labor Statistics. For workers in the "gig economy" who are treated like independent contractors, they have even fewer options for time off. 

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Allana Akhtar was a senior health reporter for Insider, where she covers the emerging wellness industry and general health topics. During the COVID-19 pandemic, Allana wrote extensively about nurses, mask mandates, the vaccine rollout, and disparities in access to health. Her articles include features on nurses needing to re-use PPE in the early days of the pandemic, ones who struggled to get paid time off after getting COVID-19, and those who left bedside care after grueling pandemic working conditions. Allana also spoke to flight attendants and retail workers who faced violence as they enforced mask mandates, and community health workers who said they struggled to receive equitable vaccine access during the initial rollout. Allana now reports on emerging trends within the wellness industry, including the Westernization of indigenous medicine and dangerous wellness trends spread through social media. She also writes about plastic surgery, racial disparities in healthcare, and breaking health news. Allana has won numerous awards for her work, including the Best News Story by the Michigan Press Association in 2015, Best Reporter Covering Nurses in 2019, and the Morris and Lola Wasserstein Award for her contribution to the the University of Michigan's student paper as an Honors student. Before Insider, Allana wrote for USA TODAY, US News & World Report, Money Magazine, Health Magazine, Jalopnik, and more. You can email her at aakhtar@jkmperu.com, call/text her at (646) 376-6058, or follow her on Instagram, TikTok, Twitter, and LinkedIn. Secure tips line: Signal # 248 760 0208'We're grossly unprepared': Nurses share their frustration as the coronavirus spreads with little direction from the government or hospitals on how to mitigate it'Sexy nurse' costumes demean one of the most in-demand professions in American life — and they're a bestseller on Amazon right nowFlight attendants describe 'unprecedented' violence as travel returns and passenger aggression soarsG/O Media fired a queer employee of color who wore crop tops, shorts, and heels to work, violating a brand-new dress code that others say they routinely violated without being punishedContractors at controversial startup Rev say they worked long hours for little pay, feared they could lose their job at any time, and had to transcribe interviews with sexual-abuse survivors without warning