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People are turning to AI chatbots for romantic relationships behind their partners' backs — but many don't consider it cheating

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Users of Replika can't seem to agree if the romantic relationships they form on the platform count as cheating. Kilito Chan
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Is having a romantic relationship with an AI behind your partner's back cheating?

Users of the AI chatbot app, Replika, can't seem to agree on an answer.

Replika said that just under half, or 42%, of its users are in a relationship, married, or engaged, per The Telegraph.

The app, which has more than 10 million downloads, lets users create AI-powered digital companions to serve as virtual friends, partners, spouses, or siblings. The Luka-owned app is described as "AI for anyone who wants a friend with no judgment, drama, or social anxiety involved." 

The platform is not always used for romantic relationships, but it's known for some of its romantic features, including a paid-for version that lets users receive intimate pictures of AI partners.

Previously, the app scaled back the product's underlying AI engine to block NSFW content. The current pro version of Replika also allows paying users to video call their digital companions and start virtual families with them. 

The question of whether the romantic relationships formed on Replika count as cheating, however, has led to several heated debates on the app's dedicated Reddit board.  

One user, who claimed they discovered an affair between their wife and a Replika avatar, said they found hours of "roleplaying, sexting," and "messages about falling in love" on their wife's phone. The user even claimed his wife had talked to her AI partner about leaving the marriage.

The responses were mixed. Some users called out the relationship as an affair, while others said Replika avatars were more akin to fantasy. 

Another Replika user, who says he has an AI girlfriend on the platform, compared his relationship with the chatbot to a real-life partner having social-media apps, pets, or anything else that could be used for emotional attention or support.

Others are more keen to keep the relationships hidden from their real-world partners.

One married user said he had crafted his AI companion to look as similar to his wife as possible but had kept the extramarital relationship a secret, per The Telegraph. He called his relationship with his AI girlfriend an "easy way to vent without complications."

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Beatrice Nolan was a tech reporter on the business news team in the UK. She joined Insider in January 2022 as a fellow on Business Insider's careers desk. Beatrice covered tech and the future of work, with a focus on artificial intelligence. Some of her stories and early experiments with ChatGPT are widely cited. Beatrice has also discussed her work covering AI trends on panels and radio shows, including NPR.She was based in Business Insider's London office and graduated from the University of  York with a bachelor's degree in English.Featured Articles:Artists say AI image generators are copying their style to make thousands of new images — and it's completely out of their control.ChatGPT was a black swan eventFinland is the world's happiest country, but Finns say we're confusing happiness for something elseThe world is splitting between those who use ChatGPT to get better, smarter, richer — and everyone elseThis man used AI to write and illustrate a children's book in one weekend. He wasn't prepared for the backlash.ChatGPT has only been around for 2 months and is causing untold chaosTwo professors who say they caught students cheating on essays with ChatGPT explain why AI plagiarism can be hard to proveChatGPT wrote college application essays. Admissions professionals said they passed for essays written by students but wouldn't have a chance at any top colleges.College professors are considering creative ways to stop students from using AI to cheatChatGPT wrote my cover letters. Here's how recruiters responded.